“I hate, hate, hate it when someone gives out my number without asking me first…”
Kenyan prolific author, Kinyanjui Kombani found himself in a mix of receiving 25 missed calls from a budding writer who wanted advice on how to get published. Even though some of his online followers were getting it upside down, I honestly think the author addressed something quite crucial and that many youths in Kenya seem to lack when talking to executives i.e., phone etiquette.
See, isn't it right and enough to make one call and leave a text for your contact person to get back if he doesn't respond in the first place? If, in the first place, he does not answer the first and second call, what makes you feel he will react to the 20th one comfortably? My point of the argument is this, it is not a must for anyone to receive your call or respond to your text, and we should respect that.
One, two, three,25 missed calls-only to be told, "Kinyanjui Kombani, I need your advice on how to get published.”
Put yourself in Kinyanjui Kombani's shoes and let me know how you would respond to this caller after 25 consistent attempts only to be informed something that should have waited much longer.
See, we can even give the caller the benefit of the doubt that he/she was desperate to get the number of among the most sought-after authors, but how will the receiver humanistically react to this?
As if this is not enough, think about the person who gave out his number and told the caller not to say it was them who did it. Which means they knew they shouldn't have done it.
Which led to KK getting 25 missed calls from an unknown number. After he called back, obviously fearing the worst, he finally meets with a statement like this, "I was calling because I am a writer and I want you to read my book and also give me advice on how to get published."
“25 missed calls? Like, who will die if you don't get published today?” Kinyanjui Kombani.
This behavior has been synonymous with many insurance telesales people for years, but they have improved with time and experience.
It is clear that anyone who can call you 25 times does not respect you, your time, and your personal space. Two times is enough. He will return your call, or he may decide not to, based on the receiver's point of view.
I read and sampled some mixed reactions some some of his fans and it was so interesting to see what different people made of this. A few of them were calling the author to be kind and relate with many fragile unpublished authors and instead consider how highly rated he is to receive 25 calls.
Someone else wrote something like this “Take a different attitude to it and ignore your initial offense...I can see the anger with the 'number giver' inadvertently directed to the caller who I reckon needs some lessons in telephone etiquette. I credit them with persistence....doggedness is a highly underrated virtue."
“I understand giving out your number without consent is unethical and invasion of privacy. There I agree with you but some of us would do anything in this world to get published. It's so hard to get your work considered out here.”
“It only means you are a force to reckon with in that field and the person is really yearning to follow your footsteps. Forget the process and assist the person where you can. One day they will write about how that call they made today changed them for the better and that will be another feather in your cap.”
“Breathe in breathe out then give a lesson on phone etiquette."
Everyone has their opinion and say about it, but we should learn phone etiquette and privacy protection from the whole experience. It is terrible enough, particularly for a friend, to give out your number and say no one should be informed you gave. That is unethical and the invention of privacy. Almasi M. Ndangili